08 May, 2014

Sorry, but not sorry...

So I have a small rant to deal with here. I'm planning a wedding, I assume my readers know this. I got engaged, so the next logical thing is to start planning a wedding. Right? ...Right.

That being said, I have to keep in mind that my parents want to pay for this event, minus the wedding gown, I flat out told them I would be paying for that, so that I get the complete and final say in that. So like I said, keeping in mind that my parents are paying for it, I want to keep the cost as low as possible. One way to do this is to have a very small wedding, and by small, I mean less than 100 people. Jon and I just want close friends and family, that is all. No people we barely know, no people who are for lack of a better term, Facebook friends. I can't do it, I can't invite every person we know, it would cost a fortune.

I don't want my parents to break the bank on this event. Yes, I know that it's supposed to be a grand affair, it's supposed to be beautiful, it's supposed to be about Jon and I, but I would feel horrible to make my family pay a fortune for it. I'm not that materialistic as that.

What Jon and I decided, please read that again, it distinctly says Jon AND I . We made the decision to only invite our close family, and closest friends. That being said, that means that there are a few people who will  be invited, but not their significant other. Mostly because Jon and I don't know said significant other, and guess what? A wedding is so not the time or place to get to know your friend's significant other, it's just not. No amount or arguing, complaining, or whining about it is going to change that. I'd say that I'm sorry that these particular people are not and will not be invited, but I'm not and neither is Jon. Because, again, it is OUR wedding. If you want to invite 300 people to YOUR wedding, then you do that; however, I will not be guilt tripped into inviting these people that we don't know to a wedding.

I think that people assume that we are singling them out and being "mean" to them and their significant other. And to be honest, it is nothing of the sort. It all boils down to the cost and the lack of a true connection/ friendship with these people. I'm not going to feel sorry for that, I'm just not. If you're going to take this as a personal vendetta against you and your significant other, that's your prerogative. To each, his own, as it were.

What I love even more about this, is that people who were so set on being there, because they are so happy for us, because they are a close friend and wanted to share in such an important day in my life have since changed their tune. Now that it is known that only very close friends and family will be invited, they no longer want to come. I'm the bad guy for planning the wedding of Jon's and my dreams. Is that so wrong? Apparently the answer must be yes, I mean if I'm offending these people so much. Last I checked, I never told anyone else how to plan their wedding, and never once complained if my significant other was not invited, and neither did Jon. we understand with the economy it just not frugal to invite everyone and their mother to your wedding, especially not for a budget wedding.

And please note, we aren't just inviting our friends and not their significant other, I can tell you right now, my younger brother is invited, however his little girlfriend is not. Granted, yes there are reasons that she is not invited. Mostly because there is some serious tension and dislike between my family and her's, but that is neither here nor there. I'm just stating there we're not just doing it to friend's, we're doing it to family too. It's not anything against anyone, we have a budget and we HAVE to stick to it. End of story. No ifs, ands, or buts. Not sorry. Get over it.  I'll be hurt, not gonna lie, I want my close friends and family there, but if you decide not to come to our wedding, your loss, not mine. I will have a wonderful wedding with the people who truly care about us and that is all I have to say about it. The end. 

02 May, 2014

I've missed doing these apparently.

1. Are looks important in a relationship? I can't lie and say they're not... anyone who says they're not is lying.
2. Are relationships ever worth it? Ayup
3. Are you a virgin? No
4. Are you in a relationship? I am, and I'm engaged too.
5. Are you in love? I am, madly in love.
6. Are you single this year? NOPE
7. Can you commit to one person? I can, and I am.
8. Describe your crush He's perfect, literally perfect in every way for me.
9. Describe your perfect mate Jonathan
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Nope, doesn't exist.
11. Do you ever want to get married? I do. And I am, next autumn
12. Do you forgive betrayal? Depends on the situation.
13. Do you get jealous easily? I can
14. Do you have a crush on anyone? Jon
15. Do you have any piercings? Yep, all in my ears
16. Do you have any tattoos? Nope, not yet.
17. Do you like kissing in public? Mhm
20. Do you shower every day? I try to, but at least every other day for sure.
21. Do you think someone has feelings for you? I know Jon does
22. Do you think someone is thinking about you right now? Jon might be if he's not completely focused on work
23. Do you think you can last in a relationship for 6 months and not cheat? Yes.
24. Do you think you’ll be married in 5 years? I'll be married next autumn
25. Do you want to be in a relationship this year? I am in a relationship
26. Has anyone told you they don’t want to ever lose you? Yep, yep
27. Has someone ever written a song or poem for you? Not that I know of
28. Have you ever been cheated on? Yes v.v
29. Have you ever cheated on someone? No, could never do that to another person
30. Have you ever considered plastic surgery? If so, what would you change about your body? Nope, never truly considered it.
31. Have you ever cried over a guy/girl? Yesh
32. Have you ever experienced unrequited love? ...yeah...
33. Have you ever had sex with a man? Only one, just Jon.
34. Have you ever had sex with a woman? Nope, not my kind of thing.
35. Have you ever kissed someone older than you? Jon's older than me, so yeah.
36. Have you ever liked one of your best friends? Yep.
37. Have you ever liked someone who your friends hated? Yeah, surprisingly
38. Have you ever liked someone you didn’t expect to? Mhm
39. Have you ever wanted someone you couldn’t have? Yeah
40. Have you ever written a song or poem for someone? I have, I love doing that sort of thing
41. Have you had sex so far this year? Yes, of course
42. How long can you just kiss until your hands start to wander? Depends on the situation, usually not very long
43. How long was your longest relationship? This one... and it's the forever relationship too.
44. How many boyfriends/girlfriends have you had? Including Jon... 4
45. How many people did you kiss in 2012/2013? Like romantically kiss... just Jon
46. How many times did you have sex last year? I lost count a long time ago
47. How old are you? 22 going on 23
48. If the person you like says they like someone else, what would you say? I'd be too heartbroken to say anything
49. If you have a boyfriend/girlfriend, what is your favorite thing about him/her? EVERYTHING
50. If your first true love knocked on your door with apology and presents, would you accept? Sure, it's been long enough that the apology would be nice.
51. Is there a boy/girl who you would do absolutely everything for? Jon
52. Is there anyone you’ve given up on? Why? A few people, doesn't matter why anymore
53. Is there someone mad because you’re dating/talking to the person you are? Not that I know of, or care enough about to care if they are...
54. Is there someone you will never forget? Yep, dick.
55. Share a relationship story.  Jon's and my first date was to a metal concert, Dethklok to be exact.
56. State 8 facts about your body --Freckles, red hair, chubby/ dimpled, small hands, brown eyes, oddly shaped, we have a love/hate relationship, pale skin.... yay!
57. Things you want to say to an ex ... I no longer have anything to say to asshat.
58. What are five ways to win your heart? Have a sense of humor, listen and actually listen, talk about books, or nerdy things, give awesome hugs, put up with my goofy randomness.
59. What do you look like? (Post a picture!)
60. What is the biggest age difference between you and any of your partners? There's 11.5 years between Jon and I.
61. What is the first thing you notice in someone? Smile, and eyes.
62. What is the sexiest thing someone could ever do for/to you? Whatever Jon does... it's all pretty damn sexy. xD
63. What is your definition of “having sex”?  I guess it's the general idea of sex, is what I'd go with
64. What is your definition of cheating? Any physical or mental straying from your partner
65. What is your favourite foreplay routine? No telling
66. What is your favourite roleplay? .... again, not telling
67. What is your idea of the perfect date? Metal concert, and food after, going to the movies, taking a walk, or just sitting at home with one another.
68. What is your sexual orientation? Straight.
69. What turns you off? Douche-bags, overly cocky guys, etc.
70. What turns you on? Emm, I feel like I keep answering the same response... Jon xD
71. What was your kinkiest wet dream? I don't know
72. What words do you like to hear during sex? The normal sounds... sighs and moans...
73. What’s something sweet you’d like someone to do for you? I like getting flowers, or having meals made for me...
74. What’s the most superficial characteristic you look for? I dunno
75. What’s the sweetest thing anyone’s ever done for you? Jon proposed... I'd say that's pretty damn sweet.
76. What’s the sweetest thing you’ve ever done for someone? I've gotten Jon some really awesome concert tickets and sappy cards, letters, and poems. xD
77. What’s your opinion on age differences in relationships? Age is just a number.
78. What’s your dirtiest secret? I don't know...
79. When was the last time you felt jealous? Why? Probably when Jessica ( Jon's cousin) was showing off her engagement ring, and I don't have one yet. Was a little jealous.
80. When was the last time you told someone you loved them? Earlier today
81. Who are five people you find attractive? Jon, Viggo Mortensen, Jonathan Rhys-Meyers, Gerard Butler, and Kit Harrington
82. Who is the last person you hugged? Jon
83. Who was your first kiss with? .... Nope, not going there
84. Why did your last relationship fail? He was a dick... and it took me way too long to realize it, and he hurt me more than anyone else ever has.
85. Would you ever date someone off of the Internet? Part of the back story to #84... allow to be blunt... NEVER again...